How to become more likeable now

Sean BowerThere are a few things that virtually everyone wants in life – money, happiness, etc., etc…

And one of those things is a very simple truth of human nature: we all want to be liked by others.

So here are the 4 simple steps for YOU to become more likeable right now…

Do you want to command the respect of others and have them like you at the same time? I’m not talking about always being the center of attention, but rather having others genuinely enjoy your company.

That can open a lot of doors for opportunity, and it’s just plain nice to be liked.

Well, here’s how to become more likeable:

1. Focus on individuals

Whether you’re meeting someone new or speaking with a friend, focus on that person. Don’t look around the room, check your phone, or start talking about other people.

A great trick for this is to say the person’s name as much as possible without overdoing it. People love to hear their own name, and it makes you seem closer and more interested.

And try to look them in the eye as much as possible, which makes you seem more confident- a very likeable trait. A trick for this is to focus on one eye.

2. Be positive

Obviously people don’t like those who are always gloomy and finding the negatives of life. And that includes putting yourself down and complaining. A limited amount of self-deprecation can be appealing, but positivity is even more desirable, especially in not-so-great situations.

3. Don’t seek attention

Sure, part of being liked can mean gaining attention of others. However, that doesn’t mean you should seek it out. People will often see any action to gain attention as self-centered.

Instead, try to put others first by complimenting someone else, but don’t be afraid of the limelight.

And be yourself at the same time!

4. Add to conversations

A trap many people fall into when they want to be liked is that they want to constantly agree with the person or people whom they are speaking with. But that behavior can look fake and desperate.

Try instead to add interesting points to conversation, or ask interesting questions that make the person or people in the discussion think. As long as you don’t hit a nerve, people enjoy a change of pace from regular small talk and ‘yes men’.

If you can begin following the advice above, you’ll immediately become more likeable.

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