As the wise Dr. Seuss once wrote, “today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
And it’s the truth!
Phrase it in rhymes or however else you like, but the reality is there is no one else who can be the best version of yourself. Plus, no one else can offer what you can, especially when you are being your best self.
But how do you do that?
There are a thousand books and services that claim to help you ‘find yourself’, but the truth is, your self has never been lost!
You just have to embody it, and it turns out, that’s easy to do if you can learn one simple habit.
What is the habit?
Now, this may seem like an oversimplification, but trust me, when you break it down, it really is the solution to everything.
You have to give yourself time to learn this habit, and believe me, you’ll slip up more often than you think when you first start out, but soon it will be second nature, and as soon as that happens, you’ll be able to embrace your full self.
You may be thinking, what does being honest mean?
You might think you already do practice honesty, and maybe you are generally an honest person, but I’m talking about another level of honesty.
Because the number one most important part of this habit is learning to be honest with yourself.
Being honest with yourself means really thinking about what different situations make you feel. It means not brushing off a rude comment or a bad day.
It means really immersing yourself in your thoughts and feelings and letting yourself understand your natural responses to all the different things you experience.
For example, if you have a job that is moderate and your work ethic is moderate, and you usually spend your day going through the motions just to forget about it as soon as you get home, it’s time to let go of that routine.
Being honest with yourself means letting yourself fully experience the mediocrity you might be shrugging off. Let yourself really reflect on your day, and ask yourself “how does this make me feel?”
This may sound like a path to wallowing in self pity, but here’s the thing: if you don’t acknowledge that something is missing, you have no way of correcting the issue to improve yourself or your life.
But if you don’t block your thoughts and feelings, and you learn to let in the reality of how you feel, you’ll be able to begin the process of reassessing and growing.
If you think about it, suppressing the truth of how you’re feeling really is just lying to yourself.
To be fair, this is a natural coping mechanism that all of us go through. It can be triggered by anything. Low self-esteem, work troubles, relationship troubles, loneliness, money worries, you name it—but once it starts, it’s really hard to let yourself open up again.
And if you can’t open up to yourself, there’s no way you can open up to the people around you, and that means that you are standing in your own way of showcasing the best version of you.
But if you are honest with yourself about what you want and who you are (the good and the bad!) you can start accepting every part of who you are, and make changes where you are settling for less.
You might not even realize that you’re settling until you open up and let yourself see the truth!
But once you do, the most authentic and incredible version of you will start to shine through.
It may sound strange that something so simple as honesty is the secret to self-acceptance, but I promise it’s worth your time to take on this habit.
As long as you are honest with yourself, you will be your genuine self, and all the best parts of you will drive you forward into a happy, fulfilled life.