If you want to succeed in any aspect of life – be it personally, financially, or any other way – there are a few things you must conquer: cynicism, self-doubt, and fear. If you let these things run your life, they can become quite literally paralyzing. And if you are paralyzed, you are unable to help anybody…least of all yourself!
Not that these things don’t have their place in life. Fear, after all, is what keeps us alive during times of physical danger; self-doubt can, when administered in small dosages, lead to self-improvement; and cynicism keeps us from falling for every two-bit hustle from a thief looking to pry us away from a few hard-earned dollars.
But if you let these things run your life, they will ruin your life. You must keep a positive outlook. When it comes to financial investments, that means that you must learn to allow yourself to succeed. Not to get too mystical, but if you go about your day already convinced that the universe has it out for you and that you’re always going to be on the losing end of any deal, guess what? You probably are. Keeping a positive frame of mind is all about allowing yourself the freedom to succeed. Once you’ve opened yourself to the possibility that you – yes, you! – could be the one driving the Bentley up to that fancy house on the hill, the universe has a way of bringing things together and making it happen.
Again, I don’t mean to sound like a mystic, wise in the ways of the world, and all that…but it really boils down to a simple question: if you have convinced yourself that you will always be a failure, who else is going to tell you the opposite? Certainly not the people who are succeeding. And certainly not the other failures you’ve probably surrounded yourself with if you do have this negative worldview.
The desire to change for the better has to come from within yourself. A better lifestyle can indeed be in your future, but only if you keep positivity up front and center. I know, that’s easier said than done. After all, you might be soured by some past financial missteps. A few bad deals can make anyone feel jaded and just want to throw in the towel.
But take a look at the successful people in your life and see what they have in common. Chances are, they’ve made just as many mistakes, if not more, than you have. But they don’t see a mistake as an end result. They see a mistake as a learning opportunity. Successful people fall down all the time just like the rest of us, but when they fall down, they pick themselves right back up and, more importantly, seek to understand why they fell so they don’t make that same mistake again.
Whether you know it or not, you’ve already learned this process. When’s the last time you burnt your hand on a stove? Probably not since you were a toddler, right? And did that keep you away from stoves for the rest of your life? I’m guessing not. You got burned, you understood why you got burned, and you’ve managed to steer clear of that same mistake.
That same basic process applies to just about every facet of your life, not least of which is your financial success. If you’ve made some bad investments in the past – and really, who hasn’t? – it’s the easiest thing in the world to throw up your hands and say the system is rigged and that you’ll always be on the outside looking in. After all, when it comes to money, the stakes are much higher than just a burnt finger: you and your family’s futures are at stake. Money dictates what kind of school you can send your kid to and what kind of medical care your family will receive if they ever get sick. It’s a big deal. It can get scary.
That’s totally understandable. I’ve been there myself. I think we all have, unless you were lucky enough to be born with a silver spoon in your mouth.
But if you’re tired of living paycheck to paycheck, barely scraping by, and you want to taste a little of that freedom that comes from being financially secure, you have to leave that old frame of mind behind you.
Again, I know that’s easier said than done. So start today. Start right now. If you have that negative voice in your head chattering away, telling you that you’ll be stuck in some dead-end job for the rest of your life, you have to make a conscious effort to change that voice. If you don’t, it will keep saying the same thing like a broken record. And really, that’s what all constant negativity is: broken.
But the good news is it doesn’t have to stay that way. Financial success can be in your future if you want it.
The first step is the hardest, but it takes place right inside you: by start telling yourself your future